Sunday, October 14, 2012

Writing everywhere but here..

*NEW LAYOUT, FORMAT, & DESIGN*

I'm taking two writing intensive ("WIN") courses this semester so I have to be constantly reading and writing. Two article reviews, one in-class essay, three journalistic writing stories, and 8 chapters worth of discussion questions and journal entries later, I have finally been awarded with some precious blogging time. I'm almost thankful for the fact that I got laid off at Guitar Center around the time I did. I loved it so much but my term ended in early September. I won't go into detail but it wasn't the most harmonious ending. The way I see it, it was like a ticking time bomb went off and I'm actually doing well in school now instead of stressing. I've even been selected to be published in the local student newspaper, The Bridge, and you can see the story here if you'd like. I have a partner I work with and we've two other pieces about astronomy and a political science organization on campus so hopefully it won't be our only slot. I only have classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays so I'm there mostly all day and during my one hour gap, I've managed to finish 5 novels. Safe Haven is down there, which I blogged about already, but I'm retouching on it just to tie in the similarities of Sparks's novels. I've noticed some definite patterns and have decided to address them here. I've also read Lori Gottlieb's two novels and want to talk about them a little. Okay so some quick paraphrasing on  plot, characters, and thoughts. These are very informal reviews but let's get to it.
This plot centralizes around Julie: the attractive hairdresser who works in Beaumont, North Carolina. It quickly covers the tragedy of becoming a widow early on and addresses all of the immediate characters fairly well. She works with Mabel and she is painted as the sassy salon owner. Then there's Andrea, the insecure woman who dresses provocatively and dates every guy but her ideal man. There's also Henry and Emma who are happily married. Last but not least, there's Mike (Henry's brother). Julie knows Mike because he was Jim's (her late husband) best friend. He's always been liked by Julie's Great Dane named Singer, who's her final gift from Jim after his passing. Your typical "best friends" situation that deals with unrequited love that everyone else can see until Julie finally opens up her eyes and decides to give Mike a chance. This happens after dating Richard, a seemingly irresistible catch. Although he treats her to extravagant dates, says the perfect lines, and has a respectable career, something doesn't feel right about him in Julie's eyes which is confirmed by Singer's apprehension towards him. Long story short: Richard's dark past is exposed as the chapters progress and he starts to plot to have Julie all to himself, no matter what. The authorities (the "dumb cop" stereotype experiencing delusions of grandeur shown through the character Pete) are no help, except for new export Jennifer. Throughout all the chaos, both Mike and Singer are there for Julie until the final confrontation of the story. Ultimately, this book is the only Sparks novel I've read where there's suspense and grim twists. It has a darker side to it but also proves the loyalty dogs can have. As a dog owner myself, it touched me. Although it's one of the more lengthier novels, I read through this book in about 2 sittings and in two days because I was that hooked. 
Logan walks across the country with his dog, Zeus, until he stops at Hampton, North Carolina to find Elizabeth ("Beth"). He begins this journey after his fellow Marine says that the picture of her is what kept him alive in Afghanistan. Initially, he doesn't believe him but after returning to the states and having difficultly adjusting to civilian life, he decides to try. Beth has no idea about his motives when he comes into her shop to ask for a job looking after the dogs in her kennel. Unsure of what to make of him, she hands the decision over to Nana, her beloved (and quirky) grandmother. She hires him and soon, everyone is falling for Logan. Even Beth's son has taking a liking to Logan, which doesn't sit well with possessive ex-husband, Keith. Most locals know that his family controls Hampton but Beth doesn't know just how much he controls her. This book develops in a point-of-view format, unlike your typical numerical chapters. It jumps from Beth, Keith, and Logan, and does a pretty decent job at developing characters and personalities. 

For the sake of saving time and space, read here.

*CAUTION* (Somewhat of a spoiler)
There's two stories in one with this novel: The story of what some call the "meet cute" between a couple and The Choice that Travis must make. The book is in a normal numerical format and starts with Travis at the hospital. Anxiously debating in his mind, he begins to flashback to the first story. The first story is somewhat of a love triangle between Travis (the easygoing vet), Gabby (the meticulous nurse practitioner), and Kevin (the commitment-phobic 4 year boyfriend). Gabby moves to Beaufort, North Carolina to get closer to her boyfriend. Her arrival next door shakes up the predictable yet content lifestyle that Travis has been living. She has been one to follow a plan her whole life but upon meeting Travis, this mentality starts to change. Meeting Travis's sister, Stephanie, further shows her there's hope for a different type of life. She ultimately chooses Travis over her boyfriend Kevin. They marry and have a happy life together until the accident, which is where the second story lies. Travis beats himself up about how Gabby ended in a comma and wrestles with keeping a promise to her or keeping their love alive. He promised her that if she ever turned into a vegetable to pull the plug for everyone's sake but he doesn't want to lose the love of his life. This choice is ultimately asks a very universal question: What would you do in the name of love?


What I noticed about all these novels were that the main love interest is always with a more calm demeanor while the ex is always painted as more of a monster. Either that, or the main love interest is always a reminder of a man in the girl's past. For example, in The Guardian Mike reminded Julie of Jim. In The Lucky One, Logan was a reminder of Beth's brother. There always has to be a sassy supporting role (i.e. Nana, Stephanie, Jo, etc.) An epic tragedy always has to happen as well (i.e. confrontation in all the stories). North Carolina is where all these characters reside (maybe they even know each other. lol ) Although the dialogue between all these couples is very playful, it's still very endearing in each one.There seems to be a specific formula Sparks always follows and he doesn't stray too far from it. I think that's what everyone always criticizes.I don't know if it's a bad thing but I do know he won't ever make a great novel if he keeps it up. There has to be some innovation to this formula before it becomes so much of a recycled mold that people stop reading. 


Lori grew up being a very bright child in Beverly Hills but was often discouraged and isolated because of it. Even her superficial mother would tried to encourage a change in her interests. This story is chronicled through Lori's diaries as an eleven year old. They provide insight to a girl's thoughts while dealing with anorexia. The format is in "diary form" but seems to be edited for an older audience. I don't know if I believe that it was authentic journal entries or entries fabricated based on the real thing. However, it was entertaining. The tone changes from laughing at the things Lori says to being genuinely concerned and upset by how she slowly morphs her thoughts before she starts to engage in the behaviors that begin her anorexia. Even as a child, Lori points out some very solid insight that's beyond her years. It almost makes you question who's smarter in the story: her parents or her? I think a second theme ties in as well. It shows how controlling and oppressing a child can turn them to unorthodox ways to cope with it. It was an easy read that left you wondering, which was the goal from the beginning. 

Marry Him has a title that basically sums up the story. It makes women pause to think about their selection choices in their romantic life and suggests an alternative. Basically, it addresses how women "judge a book by its cover" and because of it, their dating lives are suffering. She suggests a more realistic approach to dating and shows the results with "case studies" , interviews, statistics, and her own experience. It's hard to argue with the evidence. Although it was a New York Times best seller, I feel changing the title would have attracted more readers. This is quite honestly one of the most insightful books I've ever read and because of a title, I think it will propel readers away. It makes "settling" have a negative connotation to it. Gottlieb basically wants to redefine how we view "settling" and I feel that if most women would take off their masks and lower their egos a bit, they can admit that she's right in some of her points. I almost didn't buy this book because I was scared that my boyfriend would think I was reading it because I was reconsidering our relationship and I'm sure I'm not the only one who would have similar apprehension. Women are so scared of what message they're sending and carrying a book around with a giant "Marry Him" won't help them enjoy the content. It's really a worthwhile read.

So this is how I've been killing time: school, relationships, and books. Not a bad combination if you ask me. Sorry for the long entry. More structure for next time.

'til next time, stay classy! ♥

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Long time, no see!

I know I say this all the time, but blogging is always running through my mind!
This summer has been crazy busy! Between going to Oklahoma (which is where I last left off) and coming back (present), it's been non-stop hustling on my part. I was doing work and summer school full-time and I'm kind of in the middle of trying to start my own eBay store so that's been the thing that takes up my free-time. I have found ways to make it easier for me though (eBay shipping labels, USPS merchandise pick-ups at home) so it's gotten a little more manageable. I've made a bucket list of things I wanted done by the end of the summer:
  • getting my dogs their year supply of heartworm pills
  • getting restocked on flea preventatives
  • renew my B&N subscription
  • get Dusty neutered
  • court payments
  • give $150 to my ex-roommate to pay off debt on our lease (that was HER fault but messed up my credit in the process.)
So far, I've done the first three. I am looking into getting Dusty neutered in late July or early August. I checked online on my credit score website and I supposedly have no court payments pending but since I know I put off 3, I'm going to look more into that. The $150 dollar thing isn't even my fault and I know I should be more pro-active on that but frankly, I don't trust my ex-roommate. She blows all the money she has on booze (including money her mom gives her for other things) and I don't think she'll actually pay with the money I give her so I want to go with her when she does and I want to see the progress (she supposedly already set up payment plans). I also had several things I wanted to get my dogs in my planner and all of that has been done, too. I know I shouldn't focus so much on material things but most of them aren't even for me. It feels good to scratch things off, too. It gives me a sense of responsibility, progress, and growth I haven't experienced in a long time. I also took initiative and hustled my way into getting a free meningitis vaccine ($100+ value that Texas makes college kids get now). ALL this AND dating has been pretty tedious BUT I didn't do summer session 2 so for about a month, I have a relatively more relaxed schedule.
August is just around the corner and that means school..again, lol. MAKE IT STOP! I thought about blogging about all my business all summer and barely had time today to elaborate. I really thought of this thing when I saw two videos:


and this one:



The first one really struck home with me. Ignore the fact that it ends up talking about sex (lol) but it's true. We have replaced the more meaningful things in life with mere illusions of intimacy. It's pretty sad. That's why I'm off Facebook. I will confess I recently got into Instagram so I won't lie that I am completely disconnected but it's really helped me live in the moment. I might get on Facebook to push myself to do Tapout XT. Not only am I going to start documenting my results here but I want to put it on Facebook. I think it will be a motivation factor I haven't tried before. You can also mail in your before and after shot and get a "Earned Sweat" T-shirt that isn't sold anywhere. You have to earn it by completing the program and I think that's a really cool new way to get people pumped. My copy is due in a week and I'm looking at either August or September to start. I won't start right away because if I'm realistic with myself, I've let myself go. I really want to stick to this (food guide and all). I had p90x but was unmotivated due to the fact that my dad kept taking the videos away claiming they were his. I want my own set of workouts to give me that piece of mind. Also, I am starting my Happiness Project (finally!) in August. I may have been M.I.A. for summer but get ready for a lot of updates come this semester!

'til next time, stay classy!♥

ROMANCE UPDATE:
After a rocky start, we're 6 months strong, tight as ever, and laughing daily! <3








DOGGIE UPDATE:
Still cute, more spoiled AND Dusty's hair has grown back.
 (I have cuter, more recent pictures on my phone but this will due for now!)

Friday, June 1, 2012

Greetings from Ft. Sill!

I've neglected blogging because I was basically gearing up for today..my brother's graduation from basic training in the army. Sadly, I don't think I've ever been able to feel pride for my family but I experienced that today and it was a great feeling. I was a little apprehensive of him enlisting but he seems truly happy. I gained a lot of respect for our nation's military this weekend and the ceremony was really inspiring. It gave me chills, lol. Despite some tense moments, I was really happy overall with seeing my younger brother's growth. He's different now, but I think it's for the best. Some pictures:
Top and Bottom:
Candid shots of Chris catching me up on what's been going on.



Family Day

Goodbye picture after graduation

Family
I will say...I miss my dogs and my man though. I've tried my best to live in the moment while in Oklahoma but I miss them. Our trip up was scary due to some severe rain and tomorrow we're supposedly going back home with a tornado warning in our midst. Pray for us!
'til next time, keep it classy!♥ 

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Early for a change.

I guess being sick opens up the availability to do certain things...like blogging, lol.
I feel like I've done nothing but bum around and eat these past two days. I'm not used to 
having two days of blank slates. School being out (and having my weekends back) almost feels a little weird but I must enjoy it before it starts up again in June. 
Eric treated my little brother to his first time at Applebee's and then we went to the animal shelter (also my brother's first).
It's crazy to me that he's having these kinds of experiences for the first time at age 12. It makes me feel like he didn't have much of a childhood...I hope this is the beginning of a bonding tradition.
Speaking of the animal shelter, I gotta say Laredo's really makes me sad.
It's like every time I go in there, I want to walk out with at least 2 dogs. A lot of them look emaciated and it feels like even though the people there all have good intentions, it's a sad cycle. 
I wish there was more money invested into keeping these animals alive.. I heard somewhere that close to 80% of the animals are euthanized and that feels like all the efforts right now are just in vain. Money's being wasted getting them tested, fed, and cleaned all so that the majority can be put down a few days later. 
If I could do something here, it would be to raise money for a decent (hopefully indoor) shelter.
Sometimes I wonder why I ended up back in Laredo..not the literal sense because I know that but the deeper, more spiritual way. I wonder if it's to meet Eric or to bring change. As we were driving back home from the shelter, I was sharing my thoughts with Eric. I can't help but still feel betrayed by my ex-roommate. I'm not jealous but it just feels unfair that I'm in town being productive and feeling stifled by the lack of diversity and she's in San Antonio getting drunk most of the time..something she could do here. 
She stayed in SA under our name and ruined my credit (along with my dad's) and she doesn't see much wrong there either.
I can honestly say had I stayed over there, I wouldn't have grown so much but it still seems unfair.
Only God knows. 
Nothing much to report; just venting this week. 
Hope it wasn't too lame.
'til next time, stay classy♥

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

late again..

This entry is about two days late from my usual time slot on Sunday.
I didn't write last weekend but it was finals week, so please cut me some slack.
It was a busy semester but I ended up having the best overall semester in my entire college career (with the exception of one class).
I think it was a matter of focus...I hadn't really given school much importance these past few years and I finally feel a little more in control now that I can see the fruits of my labor.
As I've mentioned before, I finished reading The Happiness Project and I convinced my boyfriend to start one with me. I also went on the website for starting tools and it's pretty cool that all these resources are free. Most authors won't do that. I mean, she does have a one sentence journal she's trying to profit off of but other than that, she's not trying to drain you of money with millions of spin-off projects/products. On this website was a list of happiness projects groups in the US and I e-mailed a girl in San Antonio (since she was the closest one).
I've felt kind of trapped lately. The city I live in doesn't give you much variety and I wanted to devote my summer to "Being Michelle" and exploring things I want to explore...but I can't here. We'll see how that goes.
I also think that I'm going in a different direction than my friends..I have thought this before when I was engaged but this time is different; I'm talking about a difference in preferences. I used to bond with my friends a lot more because we shared the same interests but I find myself more willing to meet people who are more in tune with what's interesting me lately: books, good TV, art, writing, dogs, fitness, and spirituality. It's getting a little harder to relate when you can't get excited over the same things. 
I think I've always kind of question this thought but it's just become more and more obvious as time passes. I want to grow and I feel like I'm being stunted. 
I'm taking steps to change that though; I'll keep you posted. 


'til next time, keep it classy♥


Here's a picture of Eric and I on the day of his graduation:
Of course one of the dogs had to get in. They are really taking a liking to him lately and vice versa. It's so cute. :)